Friday, February 24, 2012

One Obsession for Another

Most kids have something they really like and could talk about for hours.  For me, it was Barbies.  I loved them and could dress them up all day…but there were other things I liked to do too (Chinese jump rope, coloring, writing, etc).  Children with autism take hobbies to a whole new level. 

TJ, my oldest, tends to have very intense interests (or obsessions!).  There is a misconception that autistic people are static, never changing, but the fact is their interests evolve over time like you and I. 

He has been obsessed with Hot Wheels, Transformers, Bionicles, Transformers, Legos, Transformers, Garfield, Transformers (keeps coming back to this!), and, now, ice hockey. My husband and I are San Jose Sharks fans and have watched playoff games before.  We never really watched the regular season—until now. 

TJ has become very “fanatical” (self-description from TJ) about the Sharks.  I took him to the Sharks store and he was in 7th heaven.  He wanted everything!  He has started collecting NHL cards…they have those?  He wants to see the league stats after every game.  He dutifully wears his Marleau shirt every game day.  He talked the ear off one of the counselors at a special need camp he attended because she brought up the Sharks.  He absolutely loves the Sharks! 

But so do a lot of other boys his age.  What makes it different?  The intensity.  The lack of social appropriateness.  We could be having a conversation in the car on a totally different topic and he will all of sudden spew out a stat or game highlight. 

So what to do you do with that?  Do you fight the obsessions?  Do you cave?  Neither.  There is a balance somewhere in there.  We use his interests as a way to spend time with him.  It is a way to bond and share a common interest.  But we also set limits.  If he wants a new Sharks jersey, he can buy it with his saved up allowance money.  No staying up super late for games.  We will only allow the topic to be on hockey for so long before we change it. 

I know it will not be long before he changes to something else to fill his time—probably Transformers again.  But for now, I enjoy cheering on goals with my son and feeling more connected to him that I have in years.

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